The Right Connections

Therefore if there is any consolation in Christ, if any comfort of love, if any fellowship of the Spirit, if any affection and mercy, fulfill my joy by being like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind. Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. Philippians 2:1‭-‬4 NKJV

*Here is my thing: How are we suppose to be on one accord, looking out for one another, or even develop REAL and vested friendships when Believers can't keep it real, don't really talk to each other unless they need something, don't invest in their friendships, or Lord forbid criticise others? We were meant to connect and actually invest in connections, which some should lead to accountability partners. How can you have that if you take more than you give, rarely feel like being bothered, aren't led to the right people by God alone, or just plain are off doing your own thing?