Romans 12:9-10 (ESV)
Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.
*When we do something for someone, it should never be forced or regretted. Our actions should be filled with God's love. We also, should not be in expectation for repayment or trying to make someone earn our love. For the love of God is free, and His mercy endures forever. Too many times people bring up what they have done for someone, try to manipulate people because of what they have done, use people for what they can do, or have a poor motive of needing attention or trying to force change in a connection that's based on what you chose to do for someone. Your reward comes from God, and may come through another vessel other then the one u sowed into...Also, we do not manipulate people into giving, or cop an attitude when they do not give because that's motivated by leaning on your own understanding. God is love, and His love comes free without trying to force something out of or with someone. It is not our job to change people, but to love them in faith that God's love through us will make a change.